Pick one that is easy to incorporate into your current lifestyle. You may not realize when you have bitten off more then you can chew- until you are overwhelmed, and left feeling or thinking it is time to give in and give up.
By coming to terms with the details of what setting a realistic goal will entail, you engaged yourself in the practice of learning to make lasting positive changes.
Give yourself permission to be patient with your self. Practice at the effort involved in changing smaller things. This will give you the skills you may need to succeed at letting new habits become a part of who you are. Naturally all skills have to be practiced. Practice at this is the first goal. This is a big reason why it is important to pick a small goal.
That way, when we are ready for a dynamic personal change, your mind /body /spirit already has some successful experience with facing and overcoming those things in you that resistant change.
Consider the quality of tolerance you will be developing. Being realistic will help you stick with it later when it is time to do go to the next level of tolerance. Learning not to skimp on these unconscious qualities can make or break you later on. By being willing to see it at a small level you are more apt to recognize that you in fact are able to handle it on a larger scale.
Learning to identify what the most comfortable level of stress for you is, with out reaching a boiling point, is the secret key to unlock here.
You now have that within your grasp. It may take practice, which means you will go through some trial and error. Let the practice serve as small building blocks. Build your ability to open up new doors naturally, as time goes on, and when you attempt something bigger. This way the new challenges you take on, are not as big a deal. Especially when you have a recent past that will reinforce a deeper awareness that learning to make changes is possible.
This instillation of hope will carry you though future struggles.
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